Sunday, November 8, 2015

People Just Don't Understand

I had a breakdown at work recently and had to be sent home. My life recently has gotten even worse than I thought it could. 
Im homeless, barely living off minimum wage, and essentially starving myself because if i want to afford a place to live i can't keep buying food. 
Yes life sucks, the real world is hard. 
I've even been struggling with getting back into school to get my diploma. I still faintly dream of going to college and opening an art shop. but no one is willing to help me get there. 
And i don't get people. I'd be willing to help any of my friends that needed it if i had the means to do so. but it just seems to me that no one cares that ive slept out in the cold and rain. 
So I guess i should explain what happened with work. The night before i was molested. This guy essentially swore that he would hunt me down and rape me. ive been raped twice and sexually assulted 4 times now. I hate talking about it but people make me feel like I have to. 
This guy i work with gave me a hug before work and even though i know he meant well it just triggered my ptsd. I tried to hold everything in as i unknowingly alrready had been for weeks. an hour and a half into my shift i just lost it. I strated crying and having a panic attack in the bathroom and had to leave. 
That guy is still out there. 
And that freaks me out. 
And whats even worse to me is that no everyone is treating me like im some weak helpless little girl but Im not, im trying so hard to be a man but everyone is putting me down. 
The only good thing I seem to have right now Is my girlfriend who I love very much but don't get to see enough. 
I just need help.....

Monday, September 28, 2015

Did You Know Your Life Would Change?

~a tragedy and a true story~

   Sunday November 14th, 2010. That was the day my life changed forever. The story of how I lost my best friend in the whole world.
   There I was, lounging on the couch watching yet another episode of Desperate Housewives. The taste of beef jerky and Big Red was full in my mouth as I munched away. The sun was awake, but still low on the horizon. The weather outside was beautiful, the clouds slowly floating by, I could imagine people laying out making them into shapes.
   Hours later, though it seemed like only minutes, the phone rang. I looked at the time, 1:05 pm. 
   "Hello?" I answered.
   "Hey stranger, you busy?" asked my best friend, Murphy James Wolfe. We had been best friends for as long as I could remember. We met because we had something in common, we were both social outcasts. Me by being my awkward self and him because he practically taught himself in home school (his favorite book at 7 years old was "To Kill A Mockingbird"). We would spend endless time together, having countless sleepovers, vacations, and trips to our favorite park. I returned back to the conversation.
   "Not really. Just chillin, watching tv. Why? What's up?"
   "We're going to the movies in an hour, get ready." this felt weird, like bad deja vu. I was compelled to say no and tell him I was busy later, but I didn't. 'It's my best friend, I'm just being paranoid and ridiculous' I thought to myself.
   "I don't have any money." Why did I say that?
   "You don't need any, I'm paying."
   "Okay, fine." I sensed I would regret this, but I brushed the feeling off. 
   "Be there in an hour."
   "M'kay, bye."
*
   As we walked out of the Northwood's Movie Theater, the smell of popcorn and ICEE lingered. It was about five in the afternoon, and it still felt as if the day just started.
   "That movie was freakishly lame. It was a total nerd movie, and the special effects sucked." I commented.
   "Such a critic. We could go see another movie."
   "Ok, sure. When?"
   "Right now. I believe that movie you wanted to see starts soon."
   "You've gotta be kidding me. Right now?"
   "Do I look like I'm kidding?"
   "No, I couldn't. You've spent enough of your money already."
   "You know how I feel about that. Money is just an item that is temporary. Memories, now those can last a lifetime or more."
   "Yeah, okay. You're right."
   "Yes! Let's go."
*
   The sun was setting this time as we walked out sipping root beer through Redvine straws. We had to wait almost an hour for MJ's dad to come pick us up, but neither of us minded. We laid out on the concrete head to head, began making shapes of the clouds, and even stars when they appeared. 
   "Hey Murphy, what's today?"
   "November 14th, why?"
   "I don't know, just curious."
  "Hey, what's wrong?"
  "I'm not sure, I just have an odd feeling that something really bad is gonna happen soon."
  "Don't worry, as long as I'm here, I'll never let anything go wrong, I'll never let anything bad happen to you." Just then his dad pulled up in his big white Chevrolet truck. I always loved that truck.
*
   As the truck cruised along the dark, silent, empty roads (we were taking the scenic route), MJ and I chatted away in the back. The radio was playing when a song came on and we both paused.
   "Wow, Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol. This is one of my favorite songs. It makes me think about you." As he said this, MJ's dad pulled out at an intersection, preparing to turn left when the light turned red.
   As MJ looked over at me, while singing the song with me, he got really nervous. He could barely make out a small pair of headlight speeding toward us, or so I guess.
   I don't quite know, how to say, how I feel. I blushed.
   "Hey, Uh... Will you switch seats with me? I don't have any leg room." MJ stuttered.
   "Um, sure. I guess." and I got unbuckled. As soon as my buckle unclipped MJ practically threw me over him, to the seat behind his dad (who was looking at us quite puzzled). He then pushed me with his entire body, guarding me from the opposite side of the car. I was curled up underneath him, the window above my head and his forehead pressed against it.
   "MJ, what's wrong with you?" I choked out. 
   "I love you Bex, I always have." 
   I need your grace to remind me to find my own. This played as he pressed his warm lips against mine. He kissed me, but it wasn't a normal kiss. It felt like a kiss meant for the day we would say "I do."
   If I lay here, If I just lay here, would you lay with me and just forget the world.
   Then came the impact. the other car, a 2008 Cadillac DTS, slammed into the passenger side going almost 60 mph, killing its driver instantaneously. I screamed and cowered into MJ's chest, holding onto him. My heart pounded, the song still played, and tears escaped my eyes. I felt a warm liquid dipping on me as the window above me shattered, glass raining down, and the entire truck jolted. I looked down to see a bright red liquid had covered and spotted my white t-shirt. MJ was breathing heavily, I cried, closed my eyes, and held on. His dad threw himself out of the truck the moment it stopped and dialed 911. I stayed with MJ and just cried.
   "It's okay, we'll be okay. Everything is going to be alright." I whimpered. "I love you too Murphy"
*
   Within half an hour we were questioned and answered by medical personnel, firemen, and police officers. MJ couldn't breathe well, he had lost a lot of blood, as shown on my shirt. The tears wouldn't stop coming. He was taken to the hospital; the driver of the Cadillac was taken in a different vehicle without sirens. The truck had survived other than the dent and broken window. We drove to the hospital quickly. We both ran in. 
   "What room did they take Murphy Wolfe into?" his dad yelled.
   "To the right, just down the hall, second to last room on your left." the old lady honked.
*
   MJ was put on life support, having suffered major head trauma and shattering the front of his skull, causing additional brain damage. We waited in the room with him for hours. He was dying, I knew it. I didn't let go of his hand for a second.  
   "Mr. Wolfe?" the nurse called as she walked in.
   "Yes?" he answered. I looked up through the curtain of hair that surrounded my face, the tears still streaming, as I squeezed MJ's hand.
   "I'm so sorry about the accident. Your sons condition, however, is fatal. He received major injuries to both his brain and skull, and suffered large amounts of blood loss. We have tried what we can, but his injuries are beyond repair. I'm so sorry, you're free to stay as long as you'd like, but he may only have minutes left. Feel free to call if you need anything." she then walked out, MJ's father following the nurse out to call his mother, who at the moment was in Washington state visiting family.
   MJ laid there for awhile longer, barely breathing, suffering.

At exactly eleven-thirty-six PM on November 14th, 2010,
Murphy James Wolfe was pronounced dead from brain damage.

   The moment his heart stopped, I felt as if mine did too. I cried, and a big part of my insides died. I hugged him one last time, kissed his cold, hard lips, and slowly and carefully removed the amulet he wore everyday from his neck, knowing he would want me to have it. I could still hear the song in my head. All that I am, all that I ever was, is here in your perfect eyes, they're all I can see. 
   As said by Murphy himself, "When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure."
R.I.P.
M J W
2-14-96
11-14-10
Son
Brother
Friend

I love you, and I'll never forget you.
~Love, Always and Forever, Your Bex

When a Friend Bids Goodbye

My dear friend,
close your eyes...
Hold my hand,
and hear me whisper...
For the times I was lost,
You were there to look for me.
Will you believe me when I say I love you,
 more than you will ever know?
Will you trust me when I say,
this time you have to let me go?
My dear friend, I must leave.
The world no longer needs me.
It's my time to be gone,
until we meet again someday.
Don't you cry now, I know I'll be okay.
Trust that I'll never forget you.
Don't be sad now,
Just close your eyes until it's through.
Hold my hand, don't open your eyes yet...
Wait till I no longer whisper...
My dear friend, you'll be fine.
I'll be up there watching over you.
For the times I'll be gone, don't ever forget
the words I whispered to you.
Up there they call on my name...
and I have to let go of your hand now...
Please don't cry... And smile for me...
because I'm the one who made us friends.
Remember, I'll always love you.
So come, wave me goodbye...
It'll be painful but we have to...
Hug me, hug me tight,
feel the words I can no longer say.
My dear friend, I'm going to miss you.
Just speak because I'll always listen.
And one day, when it's your time,
I'll be there for you....
Just like the way I used to.
...I Love You...
 

Monday, September 7, 2015

Thoughts of the night

Someone asked me when I knew I wanted to be a guy so this was my answer. A full story will come later.

3 months ago I came out. I talked to my therapist about it the day before and had never talked about it before. As soon as I said "I think I want to be a guy" I knew. Once when I was like 8 I told my mom I was jealous cause boys had better toys and that sometimes I wished I was a boy, but since then I never talked about it. I kinda bottled it up for years and ignored it but I still thought about it a lot and dreamed about it. Eventually I caved, I was dating this girl (before she broke my heart) and she made me feel strong, I started to feel like a guy being with her and I loved it. Also once when I was 5 I had an imaginary wife. I've always kinda known I guess, I was just afraid to show it. 

And the drawing that is now on my door

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Thoughts Of The Day #2

   My mind is a mess, it's like my own personal prison. I hate it. I feel like I can't escape, like it's this person who captured me, and won't let me go, and enjoys torturing me. Honestly, I don't always feel alone inside my head. That's a very scary thing. I still hear that name and see that face and all the things that remind me of that person, and its like my head wants me to suffer, with all the constant reminders of that person everywhere I go. I hate how the marks humans leave are too often scars...
   Recently I've been exceedingly stressed out. My breakdowns have come back and I'm getting worse again. they happen often, and it's terrible. My chest tightens, I have trouble breathing, the world around me darkens and I have to hold my sides to keep from falling apart. I'll often go hide somewhere for an hour or so, so no one has to see or feel my pain. And they happen more and more often, they are now coming on bi-weekly. The other day at my aunts, I cried on the bathroom floor for an hour. Last night I sat up in the dark and cried for 2 hours while my friend soundly slept beside me. He has no idea of the pain I truly feel on the inside, no one does... I don't really want this particular life...
   My mother and I got into quite the fight the other day, this one was much worse than many of the others we have had. I fear our relationship at this point is beyond repair, and I'm sad for that, but at the same time I'm not. She pushed me away and caused me pain for so long, I almost don't want to go back. I'm willing to admit I HATE her and everything she is. I mean, I will always love her, but in the sense that 'she's my mother and I have to' not in the sense that I want to or that I like her as a person. I honestly can't wait till the day comes when I have turned out to be much more successful than she has, and I can stand up stronger, taller, and a much better person than her.
   I think this is a difficult thing to talk about with people, because they don't understand the "family" I grew up with. I had to grow up at an early age, and I had to care for my sibling when no one else really was. I've been neglected and abused. Sometimes I honestly don't even feel as If I have a true family. I mean I can pick out a few relatives who I love with all my heart, but it's not many. I don't have what others do. My spouse will never meet my 'parents' if thats what I have. I'll never truly have a dad. And those are some of the things that hurt me most. 
   Love has been the most difficult place for me... I know I want my forever, but I fear no one will ever be right for me. I keep getting abandoned and hurt and I'm tired of it. I hate it. And what makes it so much harder is that so many are trying. There's the guys and the girls, some close and some far, and I've left my heart open. But it's so hard to decide now, because I'm so afraid I'll make the wrong choice and I'll get hurt again. What am I supposed to do?
   I recently hear someone say "Whatever you do in life will be insignificant."
   That's bullshit, that's exactly why it's very important that you do it anyway because nobody else will. Like when someone comes into your life and half of you says you're nowhere near ready, but the other half says: make them yours, forever. 
   It's things like this and choices in my life that I'm struggling so hard with. and the one question I've been asked most that I'm still trying to figure out...

Who Are You, Really?

You are not a name,
or a height, or a weight,
or a gender.
You are not an age,
you are not where
you are from.

You are your favorite books,
and the songs stuck in your head.
You are your thoughts,
and what you eat for breakfast
on Saturday mornings.

You are a thousand things,
but everyone chooses
to see a million things
that you are not.

Loosing Control

I was lying in bed this morning
and all of a sudden
I got this really sharp pain
right by my heart.
I felt like I was
getting stabbed in the chest.
It lasted for about fifteen seconds.
My thoughts were racing
and I was trying to breathe heavy
to get it to go away
and I thought I was going to die.

This is the part
where it applies
to every single one of you.

I've tried to take my life before,
I've wanted to die
so many times in my life,
but when I felt like something
was going to kill me
without my control,
all of those thoughts stopped. 

In my mind
I was begging I would be okay.
No matter how much
You hate the world,
No matter how much
You hate yourself,
there are answers
that are better than death.
Believe me.
There are people that love you.
I love you, for crying out loud.
There are people
who would be a wreck
if you were gone.
There is a reason
we are all on this earth,
I promise you,
even if you don't see it now.
If you're feeling alone,
know that the world
can be a lonely place
but it would be lonelier
without you in it. 
I know some people may decide not to believe these words coming from me, hell, even I'm having trouble with that. I still don't see the point in my life, but I've learned to accept that others need me here, so I mustn't be so selfish. The pain I may feel is unbearable, but doing that to others, in my eyes, is way worst.
Know if you ever need a helping hand or just need someone to talk to, I am here for you.
~Beck Jenkins 1(210)848-2468

You Can't Change The Stripes On A Tiger

The Epiphany 

I just realized,
how much has changed.
In the last year,
I lost a lot of people.
I lost a lot of my friendships, 
and the people who say,
"I'll always be here for you"
ended up leaving. 

People really do change in a way,
but I've recently learned to accept you can't change
who they truly are, even if you want to.
You can't change the stripes on a tiger. 
I guess that is just how life works.

Maybe it's why something inside,
is hurting me-
That's why i need cigarettes,
or a drink,
or music turned up so loud,
I can't fucking think. 

And I can no longer sleep well,
not without seeing that face,
or hearing that name,
or waking to crying, screaming pain.
That's why I stare at the ceiling,
for hours on end, in the dark,
just wishing to go back and change time,
but I can't.

Nothing will ever be right again, 
I know that now...